Tuesday, December 30, 2008
( 9:10 AM ) teahouse
Welcome to Dumpsville
I think I've been officially dumped by one of my friends.
We were pretty close (or so I thought). I was her maid of honor in her wedding in 2003.
Over the years, I stayed close to her. I didn't care much for her husband. I thought he bordered on emotionally abusive toward her. But I never told her how I felt about him; I just stayed close to her and made it clear that I was her friend and there for her.
I invited her to my own wedding back in the spring, and she sent back a one-sentence RSVP on the card I'd enclosed. "We can't make it."
That was it. No card, no phone call, no present, not even an email saying "Congratulations." Zip. Nada.
I've called her 5 or 6 times since my honeymoon, and sent her another 5 or 6 emails asking her how she's doing, give me a call, hope all is well, let's catch up, etc.
And I know she's doing well, and has been in touch with some other friends, because one of them (who was nowhere as close to her as I was) forwarded me a funny forward she'd sent, and another email she'd sent to a bunch of people updating her on her life. I was not included on that list.
Finally, last week we sent her a Christmas card with our wedding photo on it. It came back unopened, stamped, "Return to Sender, Not Deliverable as Addressed, Unable to Forward."
I'm very hurt, and I suspect that her husband has something to do with this. I don't think he ever liked me. Maybe he convinced her that I (alone of her friends) was not a good friend?
But I can't help but feel really sad about the whole thing. #