Sunday, April 25, 2010

      ( 12:59 AM ) teahouse
Sad News

The Husband got some sad news today. His girlfriend from high school passed away this week.

She'd been diagnosed with breast cancer in her mid-20s, and fought it off and was in remission for many years. But not long ago, it came back and metastasized in her lung, liver, and finally her brain.

She was 35 years old. She left behind a husband and a three-month old baby.

We found out today that she'd kept a blog detailing her chemotherapy and treatments, her hopes, her fears. As she got more and more weak, her husband took over posting and updating on her condition. He and their baby and her whole family were with her right at the end.

I feel incredibly sad. Even though I'd never met her, reading someone's blog really has a way of making you feel like you've been invited into their living room.

And I was struck by how much she said in her recent posts that she wished she could have a normal life - go out to dinner with her husband, run in the park without getting out of breath, eat whatever she wanted without vomiting. All of the things that I (and most thirty-something year olds) take for granted every day.

I think the Husband is still in shock. They'd lost touch, and he hadn't realized how sick she was. He's spent the past few hours contacting high school friends to share the news, and not talking much otherwise.

I can't really say anything else that doesn't sound trite - life is precious, we could all go at any time, live each day to the fullest, etc. But it's all true.

Hug a loved one today.



this makes all the stuff seem petty.

By Blogger ally, at 5:17 PM  

it is hard, the loss


By Blogger ... Paige, at 11:17 AM  

It is a shocker. She was so young! My boss from a few years back went through the same ordeal, she was only in her 40's when she passed away and it was hard to watch her and her family go through it. I feel very lucky to be healthy.

By Blogger Jolynn, at 2:48 PM  

I try to cherish every moment...the good and the bad...but today I was complaining. I needed this reminder.

By Anonymous unforgiving b*tch, at 5:27 PM  

My condolences, THB.

By Anonymous lbck, at 5:25 PM  

That's very sad, but also a testament to how blogs can pull so many people together. RIP

By Anonymous Kabitzin, at 6:42 AM  

I pray that her husband can learn to be happy again so he can teach their child by example.

By Blogger Bridget, at 11:30 PM  

My Ex died Tues. night at 10:36 p.m. from Metastic Melanoma. It sucked but wasn't a shock for me. I had known about it for a month and had been in constant contact with him and his sister. That was all it took from diagnosis - 1 month and a couple of days and he was gone. Cancer sucks. Your post is hitting home with me right now.

By Blogger kimmykins13, at 4:51 PM  

My condolences.

What a sad, sad story. Too many young people die from this horrible disease.

By Blogger Nadine, at 3:12 PM  

So sad. That poor baby who will never remember her mother!

By Blogger City Wendy, at 9:34 AM  


By Blogger Ming the Merciless, at 6:40 PM  

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