Wednesday, November 30, 2011
( 3:57 AM ) teahouse
Wish I'd Known
Whew, what a rough couple of weeks it's been!
I love my baby, and he's cute and precious and awesome. But man oh, man, the first couple of weeks of parenthood are hard.
You can see from the time of this post that we've been up around the clock.
I got to thinking about things that I wish people had told me before I had my baby! Here they are, in no particular order.
1. When you give birth, there's a lot of extra stuff that happens that they don't show in movies and on tv. Yeah, like the part where you have the baby and you're all excited and happy...but then you lie there for an hour afterwards while the doctor: (a) delivers the placenta (which is like giving birth a second time but not as painful); and (b) sews you up down there. After a while, your legs get pretty tired.
2. After you give birth, your body will tend to be constipated for weeks afterward. Eat lots of salad and drink some Metamucil. I promise, your body will thank you. If your constipation ship has sailed, Rite Aid's laxative for women is awesome and really gets things going.
3. Breastfeeding is hard. It can be more painful than childbirth. Even though it's "natural" it doesn't come naturally. Use a lactation consultant. I wish I'd done that right away instead of trying to figure it out for myself for so many days. I'm still praying every day for my nipples not to fall off.
4. Recovery from childbirth takes a long time. I kept telling myself, "Well, my baby was small since he was so early. This will be a breeze! Maybe I'll go for a run next week!" WRONG. I can still barely walk down the hall. And that's ok - it's good to take it easy and let your body heal.
5. A lot of women get the baby blues after delivery. Over the course of a day, your body goes from having the most estrogen of your life (pregnant) to having the least estrogen (postpartum). It's nothing to be ashamed of, and chances are a bunch of your friends went through it but feel that there's a taboo about admitting it. If the baby blues morph into postpartum depression, Zoloft is really ideal, since it's only minimally passed into breast milk.
I will probably keep adding to this list. Yeah, these are all things I wish people had told me in advance. Especially the one about the constipation.#
Ha! I'm reading this FROM labor & delivery (it's the boring part right now for me). Irony?
That is so true. People should tell you what to expect after you have your baby. Your body goes through so much!
wow, haven't heard about most of those either.
Thanks for the update!
What helpful advice! Thank you, lady!
By 6:05 PM, at
A belated congratulations! I hadn't stopped by for a while--obviously--and look at all that's happened! I wish you all the very best. It DOES get better, really. The first weeks are such a massive shock to your body, your mind, your routine, your chemistry. It's a wonder some of us do it again. The thing about telling expectant mothers what it's like is that, honestly, you forget a lot of it after a while. I barely (really never) remember the pain of nursing, or the constipation, or the hemorrhoids, or those other truly awful things. I do remember the postpartum crying and the emotional roller coaster, but even that for most (a lot of?) women becomes a distant memory. Hang in there--it's all I can say. You will enjoy your baby and your new life once everything stabilizes.
Wait'll you get to college tuition payments. You'll be praying for constipation.