Wednesday, May 29, 2013
( 10:20 PM ) teahouse
Well, I'm still here! I've been terrible about posting, I know. But I still can't give up on this blog. Even though the whole world seems to have moved on - to Facebook, and Twitter, and Google+ and whatever else is out there.
The Little One is growing by leaps and bounds, and the job is going fine, and the Husband and I are saving for our future and trying to take one day at a time.
We recently traveled to the Deep South for my high school reunion. It was unexpectedly fun.
Afterward, the Husband asked me, "You were one of the popular kids, weren't you?"
"No way!" I responded. "I was a super nerd. The cool people never talked to me."
"Well, that's not true now" he observed. "Even the cool people were excited to see you this weekend. It's because you're friendly."
Maybe that's what counts, in the final analysis?#
Thursday, November 29, 2012
( 10:38 PM ) teahouse
I got this email today:
My name is Sophie. I am a very pretty 34 year old blonde MILF with a great body (I work out every day)
Don't get me wrong, I am married and I won't try to hide it.
My husband however has been going on way too many business trips. Not sure what to believe anymore.
Life is pretty boring at home. I miss having the fun I had in college and before getting married.
We live closeby it looks like and chances are we've even seen each other. I know, it's pretty crazy.
This is a private and very secure place to meet people while still in a relationship. Be assured that what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas !
I'm not sure that I'm exactly Sophie's target audience. Should I write back to her and tell her that?#
Friday, November 09, 2012
( 12:36 AM ) teahouse
Well, I'm glad to report that my family and I survived Hurricane Sandy, the Presidential Election and the Nor'Easter. What a week it's been!
I did my civic and patriotic duty, and I voted on Election Day. It's never far from my mind the sacrifices that many women before me made, so that I could vote!
On that vein, I have two photos to share.
The first is one of a suffragette in England in 1910 getting beaten up by cops as she is protesting her lack of right to vote.
Pretty powerful stuff.
It should give us pause. Whenever you are tempted to be cynical about voting or our elective process, think of what many were willing to do just to cast a ballot in the ballot box.
The second photo one I saw today online.
I admit I stared at this photo for about 10 minutes, mesmerized.
To me, this photo conveys a lot of information. Most importantly, how we have so much more in common than not. Something to think about.#
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
( 7:54 AM ) teahouse
Yes, we're still here!
And we survived Hurricane Sandy.
As a native of the Gulf Coast, I've lived through many hurricanes. But I must say, this was the worst I've seen.
Our hearts are broken for those who lost their homes and loved ones.
But what's uplifting is seeing the way the good people of the East Coast have pulled together in the aftermath.
We rode out the storm on the Upper West Side. Fortunately, we didn't lose power, but after 2 days indoors with an 11-month-old, anyone would go stir crazy, right? Right!
In the meantime, check out this most heartwarming photo, of a guy who set up a station after the storm, so strangers could charge their cell phones!
Monday, September 10, 2012
( 2:33 AM ) teahouse
Dinosaurs Are Smart
We set up a "cage" in the living room to keep the baby enclosed.
But he keeps crawling around, testing the perimeter.
Just like the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park!
Yes, it's only a matter of time before he finds the weaknesses and exploits them. He will make his escape and stomp around the entire house, terrorizing us.
Although today he was relatively quiet.
I suspect he's onto something else..specifically, setting up a booby trap, with plans to lure me inside and then make his move. Once he incapacitates me, he'll be free to get out!
Friday, August 17, 2012
( 9:53 PM ) teahouse
Yeegads, have I really not posted in over a month?
Ok, I have a good excuse, I promise. The parents are in town from abroad, and they're staying with us! Yes, in our small apartment. With us. And the baby.
You know how after, say age 16, it becomes impossible to live with your parents?
Yeah, I have reminded of that every day this summer.
They're out of town for the weekend. So it's time to party! That means updating my blog (yes, I know you're all jealous of the excitement in my life).
And then at the end of the party clear my internet history.
Carry on, carry on.
Labels: dealing with parents#
Sunday, July 08, 2012
( 10:36 PM ) teahouse
So as I've mentioned before, I was recently told by my doctor that I have elevated blood sugar and I'm pre-diabetic.
Not a big surprise, since Type 2 diabetes runs in my family. But in a way, a surprise, since I'm still in my 30s.
I've had some success in modifying my diet and exercising more.
On the minus side, it means less rice, less stuff like bread and fruit, and pretty much no dessert.
On the plus side, this means lots of high protein breakfasts! Yay!
Sunday, June 17, 2012
( 11:22 PM ) teahouse
Hey! I know I haven't posted in forever, but I'm still here!
And we just moved. We're renting out our condo (which we really outgrew with the baby), and we've moved to a 2-bedroom rental farther uptown in Manhattan.
We found out after we'd moved into our new place that our building was one of the original Mitchell- Lama buildings built in the 60s.
This means that many middle-income families moved in, and were encouraged to stay, enticed by affordable rents.
As a result, all of our neighbors are very friendly and are all old friends. There are a variety of ages, races and professions represented.
We've met several middle-aged neighbors who say they've lived in the building since they were toddlers. They grew up together, married and had kids, all in the apartments they'd lived in since they were kids.
It's really unique, and says a lot about the success of this program. The company that owns our building is now opting out, and as apartments are being vacated (usually when their aged inhabitants pass away), they're renovating them and renting them out, at market prices, to yuppies like us.
It makes me feel a little sad. Because our rent is so high, it's unlikely we will stay here long. After all, we really want to own again long-term.
But for now, I will enjoy and appreciate this little microcosm of what our society could be.#
Wednesday, May 02, 2012
( 12:34 AM ) teahouse
Me: So what do you think of the third generation device? Is it worth the extra $100 over the second generation?
Friend A: I upgraded, and I'm glad I did. The new one runs a lot faster and has longer battery life.
Me: Yeah, I heard that, too. But is it worth spending so much extra for a slightly faster machine?
Friend B: I think it is. It's also a lot smaller, lighter and more portable. I can carry mine around in my purse.
Friend C: Are you guys talking about the new iPad?
Friend A: Um, no. We're discussing breast pumps.
Tuesday, April 03, 2012
( 11:24 AM ) teahouse
Almost 5 Months!
Sorry I've been so remiss in posting. The days really fly by nowadays!
I'm returning to work soon; I'll let you guys know how that works out.
And some not so great news - I had gestational diabetes when I was pregnant, and I expected it would go away after birth. But it did not, and now it turns out that I'm pre-diabetic!
It's meant totally changing my diet, watching my carb intake and making sure to exercise more regularly. And it's a permanent life change.
Not fun, but I lost 8 pounds in 2 weeks. Every cloud has a silver lining.
When I think about how much that sucks, I look at the little monkey, and remind myself of how lucky I am.
Here he is - he's very roly poly now. He's launched himself off his play area and onto the floor, about to roll over!#
Thursday, March 15, 2012
( 1:20 AM ) teahouse
Hard to believe the Little One is already 4 months old!
It seems like only yesterday he was a wee little premature thing. And now he's graduated beyond the newborn diapers!
And look at all of that hair! Yes, he was born with a mullet - party in the front and back.
I'll be going back to work in not too long. I've worked out a part-time arrangement. We'll see if it ends up being totally rewarding or totally non-juggle-able and disastrous.
I'm embarking on the world of working motherhood. Anyone have any pearls of wisdom to share on juggling it all?#
Wednesday, March 07, 2012
( 10:04 PM ) teahouse
Big Brother is Watching
Yesterday we got an L.L. Bean catalog in the mail.
Nothing unusual about that. Except that it was addressed to our four month old son.
WTF? Is there a mole in the Social Security Administration?
I think we should be very, very scared...#
Friday, February 17, 2012
( 12:18 AM ) teahouse
So how come nobody told me that Starbucks makes decaf Frappuccinos?
Frappuccinos are among my favorite drinks in the world. But for the past two years I've either been: (1) pregnant; (2) trying to get pregnant; or (3) nursing. So, caffeine intake has been severely limited.
Tonight I entered a Starbucks near Times Square, and discovered the pleasures of a decaf Frappuccino.
Excited, I bought one - tall, coffee flavored with whipped cream - and then proceeded to drink it rapidly while taking the subway home.
The polite teenager sitting next to me watched me as I downed the whole thing in about 30 seconds.
I got so excited, I sucked hard and sent whipped cream flying. Some hit his coat.
"So sorry!" I exclaimed, wiping it off. "It's just that I got too excited..I just had a baby, and I haven't had one of these in two years."
"No problem," he responded. "I could tell you were really into this drink."
Saturday, February 11, 2012
( 10:25 PM ) teahouse
Where has the time gone?
I'm enjoying life with the new little man, and still on maternity leave.
It's sad that in the United States, employers are not required to give any maternity leave! But fortunately my employer is very generous. I've used up my leave but I'm currently on unpaid leave through the spring.
Life with the new baby is good, but definitely hard. And I've struggled with a little bit of postpartum depression. To be expected. There have been many life changes.
But little things have helped me get through the day - taking some time to meet friends, going outside for just a few minutes each day to get some sun, writing in my diary when I get a chance.
And the little one just started smiling. That's made it all worth it!#
Sunday, January 01, 2012
( 1:49 AM ) teahouse
Happy New Year!
Wishing everyone a happy 2012! For me, 2011 ended on a good note. I'm hoping that the future holds a lot more happiness.
We weren't going to get a Christmas tree this year, with all of the craziness with the new baby in our tiny apartment.
But when I saw this little tree for sale for $10 on the street, with this little handwritten sign attached, I couldn't resist!
Hoping everyone has had a wonderful holiday season!#
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
( 5:01 PM ) teahouse
The Husband called me this afternoon and said, "I'm stopping by the baby store; what do you need?
He quipped, "So you are saying we need nips and tucks?"
I said, "Hardy har har. I'm hanging up now."#
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
( 3:57 AM ) teahouse
Wish I'd Known
Whew, what a rough couple of weeks it's been!
I love my baby, and he's cute and precious and awesome. But man oh, man, the first couple of weeks of parenthood are hard.
You can see from the time of this post that we've been up around the clock.
I got to thinking about things that I wish people had told me before I had my baby! Here they are, in no particular order.
1. When you give birth, there's a lot of extra stuff that happens that they don't show in movies and on tv. Yeah, like the part where you have the baby and you're all excited and happy...but then you lie there for an hour afterwards while the doctor: (a) delivers the placenta (which is like giving birth a second time but not as painful); and (b) sews you up down there. After a while, your legs get pretty tired.
2. After you give birth, your body will tend to be constipated for weeks afterward. Eat lots of salad and drink some Metamucil. I promise, your body will thank you. If your constipation ship has sailed, Rite Aid's laxative for women is awesome and really gets things going.
3. Breastfeeding is hard. It can be more painful than childbirth. Even though it's "natural" it doesn't come naturally. Use a lactation consultant. I wish I'd done that right away instead of trying to figure it out for myself for so many days. I'm still praying every day for my nipples not to fall off.
4. Recovery from childbirth takes a long time. I kept telling myself, "Well, my baby was small since he was so early. This will be a breeze! Maybe I'll go for a run next week!" WRONG. I can still barely walk down the hall. And that's ok - it's good to take it easy and let your body heal.
5. A lot of women get the baby blues after delivery. Over the course of a day, your body goes from having the most estrogen of your life (pregnant) to having the least estrogen (postpartum). It's nothing to be ashamed of, and chances are a bunch of your friends went through it but feel that there's a taboo about admitting it. If the baby blues morph into postpartum depression, Zoloft is really ideal, since it's only minimally passed into breast milk.
I will probably keep adding to this list. Yeah, these are all things I wish people had told me in advance. Especially the one about the constipation.#
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
( 7:56 AM ) teahouse
Sorry I've been MIA for several weeks now.
But I have a good excuse!
Our little one decided to make his appearance five weeks early.
We were very surprised when my water broke in the middle of the night at only 35 weeks. It was just like in the movies!
So far, so good. He is cute and precious and little.
Life is a bit crazy these days. I am up around the clock. But everyone says this time will pass quickly.
Friday, October 28, 2011
( 11:05 PM ) teahouse
A Sign of Things to Come
We went to the ob/gyn this week for an ultrasound of our little one.
The doctor looked at the screen and said, "His hands are up in front of his face. See his fingers? He's giving us the peace sign!"
The Husband looked closer at the screen and said, "Actually, it looks more like he's giving us the finger...with both hands."
The doctor and I both took a second look. He was right! The kid was indeed giving us the double middle fingers.
Even the doctor agreed.
I guess this is what we have to look forward to...#
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
( 10:18 PM ) teahouse
I took a walk this afternoon, to take a break from work and get a snack.
I work in one of those large buildings in Manhattan with a basement concourse full of retail shops and restaurants.
As I walked through it, I noticed a line of people. It was a massively long line - it stretched through half the length of the concourse!
I saw that it was a line of people applying for minimum wage jobs at a new retail store that's about to open up.
I've seen people lining up to apply for jobs before, but never this many!
One man up front was talking earnestly to the employee who was controlling the line. All I heard him say was, "Come on, we're all here because we all have to eat!"
It really hit home, the impact of the recession. I can't stop thinking about it.#
Sunday, October 23, 2011
( 11:01 PM ) teahouse
The Sister is visiting us for the weekend.
Brokeback Mountain was on tv tonight. The Husband has never seen it, but the Sister and I were watching it while eating dinner.
"I'm curious.." said the Husband. "When in the movie do we realize that Jake Gyllenhaal's character is gay?"
"Hard to say.." replied the Sister. "My guess is it might be sometime around the time he has sex with Heath Ledger's character..."
I laughed so hard I semi-swallowed (and almost choked on) a chicken bone.#
Monday, October 17, 2011
( 4:47 AM ) teahouse
I'm nothing if not persistent.
I hang onto this blog, even though everyone I know has migrated their daily thoughts onto Facebook.
I like Facebook as well, but sometimes you need the anonymity of your own personal blog. And a forum in which to write full postings that aren't limited to tiny little blurbs of material.
So I'm still posting away, even though I think about 5 people out there still read this. It's very 2003 of me, of course.
But I don't care! In a way, it's like getting back to basics.
Back when I first started this blog, nobody read it, but it was a way for me to get my thoughts out there. It was a simpler time. And it is again, in a way.
What am I up to these days? Well, mostly bouncing around on this ball that the Husband bought me:
This thing does wonders for pregnancy-induced sciatica.
I'm almost 8 months along now, counting down the weeks and days until our little bundle of joy joins us (God willing).
The only thing that alleviates the back pain is this ball.
Like the boulder that Sisyphus was condemned to roll up the hill forever.#
Thursday, September 22, 2011
( 9:15 PM ) teahouse
It Takes a Real Man to Admit It
The Husband is really into Justin Timberlake.
Last night he was watching videos of him performing on Youtube, and laughing. He especially likes this one.
I said to him, "Wow, I think you have a man crush on Justin Timberlake!"
He paused, shrugged, and then said, "Well, I do think he is REALLY talented."#
Monday, September 19, 2011
( 10:06 PM ) teahouse
A colleague from Africa came to visit us today. As a present, he gave me a piece of currency from Zimbabwe.
This bill is worth about $1. Pretty sad, huh?
Sunday, September 11, 2011
( 11:33 PM ) teahouse
Ten Years Later
Well, today is the 10 year anniversary of the 9/11 terrorist attacks.
It is also my birthday - ten years after that fateful day.
On that day, I was in my 20s, living with two roommates in Murray Hill. It was a horrible day.
Today, ten years later, I'm in my 30s, living with my Husband on the Upper West Side.
And with time and maturity, I realize how lucky I am, and was, that day.
My one roommate who worked in One World Trade Center was in the building when the first plane hit. She managed to walk down over 60 floors, exit the building and get away before it collapsed.
Nobody else close to me was hurt or killed. But I remember being so angry at the terrorists, for doing this to us, for killing all of those people. Heck, I was even angry that they had ruined my birthday!
Today I am happy and thankful for what we did as a city, and as a nation, in the aftermath of those attacks.
And I am happy to give my friends and loved ones at least one reason to be happy (and a reason to party) on a day like September 11.#
Sunday, September 04, 2011
( 10:29 AM ) teahouse
So yeah, last week's vacation did NOT go as planned.
The Husband and I were in Vermont!
Yes, that Vermont. The state that was hardest hit by Hurricane Irene.
That was unexpected. Who would ever have thought that a hurricane would devastate landlocked Vermont, of all places?
We were safe, but our plans to stay at a charming bed and breakfast in southern Vermont were canceled, when the one road to town was cut off, rendering it completely inaccessible.
We had to stay with friends in Burlington for 3 extra days, and then it took us 6 hours to navigate the small roads through southern Vermont to get home.
At least we are safe and sound.
Now I have to go and use this long Labor Day weekend to recover from the stress of last week's vacation.#
Friday, August 26, 2011
( 12:23 AM ) teahouse
The Great American Work Vacation, Version 2.0!
It's that time of the year again!
The Husband and I are escaping New York City and spending 10 days up in New England.
This year, the timing couldn't be better. We are leaving in time to escape Hurricane Irene.
Seriously, it's kind of ridiculous how freaked out New Yorkers are getting about this hurricane that's coming toward us.
Mayor Bloomberg had a serious press conference today, my neighbors are clearing their balconies and taping up their windows.
Seriously, New Yorkers? First, it's only a Category 3, and second, by the time it hits the vicinity of New York, it is likely to have fizzled.
Having grown up in the Deep South, we had a hurricane every week. Yes, they are destructive and scary. But they rarely get this far north (where temperatures are less favorable. And once they hit the land, it really slows them down.
That said, I hope I don't come to regret these words.
I guess it's possible that a hurricane could lash Manhattan. Anything is possible.
But I'm not holding my breath.
I'll see y'all after Labor Day!#
Monday, August 22, 2011
( 12:02 AM ) teahouse
Marriage is Compromise
The Husband and I have discovered a major point of contention between us.
Honestly, I can't believe it's taken us this long to figure this out.
I like soft, cottony, pillowy toilet paper. It's so much more comfortable to use than the cheap stuff!
The Husband, on the other hand, likes the thin, cheap stuff. He says it has "better grip" and "leaves less residue."
I didn't want to go any farther, so I didn't ask for more detail!
Suffice it to say, it's been impossible for either of us to compromise on this hot-button marital issue.
As a result, we have agreed to keep two separate rolls of toilet paper in our bathroom - one for him, and one for me.
Our guests are pretty confused. But at least they have options.#
Thursday, August 18, 2011
( 9:16 AM ) teahouse
Now that we're expecting, kind and well-meaning friends are coming out of the woodwork to offer us stuff.
They all say things like, "I'm going to give you my bumbo" or "boppy" or "exersaucer" or "jumpy pumpy lumpy" or "poopy loopy hoopy" or something or another.
Are these all real things? And why the silly names?
We just smile and nod and accept the stuff. They're all some variation of plastic tub looking thing or pillow or cushion. Usually covered in images of ducks or butterflies.
I'm a little scared about this new world we're entering.#
Wednesday, August 03, 2011
( 12:08 AM ) teahouse
The other day I went to visit some friends in Brooklyn.
They live pretty far from me - I had to get from the Upper West Side to just a couple of stops from Coney Island.
I got onto the train at Times Square, and a kind middle-aged gentleman very nicely offered me his seat.
I was touched, and gratefully accepted his offer, since my back was really hurting.
A few stops later, I glanced over and noticed that he was still on the train.
Several stops after that, he was still there.
An hour later, we arrived at my friend's stop. Seriously, it was the first time I realized what a trek it was for The Warriors to get from the Bronx to Coney Island without getting killed.
I got off the train at my friend's stop, I noticed that this gentleman also exited.
Wow, I thought. What are the chances that we were going from Midtown Manhattan to exactly the same stop in southern Brooklyn?
Quickly forgetting about him, I walked 6 blocks to my friend's house, then across and through a small, winding road to a quiet, tree-lined block of houses.
As I arrived at my friend's house, I saw, to my astonishment, this same gentleman dragging a trash can to the curb of the house next door!
It was clearly his house. Yes, he was my friend's next door neighbor! He waved at me in recognition.
The moral of the story: be nice to strangers. Because you never know when they'll turn out to be friends of your neighbors, or at the very least, know where you live!#